Notes and Quotes from "Tuesdays With Morrie"

Saya baru aja menyelesaikan baca buku "Tuesdays with Morrie"-nya Mitch Albom. 
Iiiih.....telaaat banggeeet yaaa....secara ini buku first published-nya tahun 1997 kalo gak salah. 

Sebenernya udah pernah beli buku versi bahasa Indonesia-nya tahun 2007 lalu, tapi itu buku raib dipinjam temen sebelum saya pernah membacanya hehehehee...

Okeh, dalam tulisan ini saya murni mau menuliskan kembali quotes dari buku itu, yang hampir seluruhnya berasal dari Mr. Morrie Schwartz. Sebelumnya, sedikit penjelasan bahwa Mr. Morrie Schwartz adalah dosen dari si penulis (Mitch Albom) yang menderita penyakit ALS (Amyotropic Lateral Sclerosis), sebuah penyakit yang menyerang sistem saraf. Di hari-hari terakhir Mr. Morrie, si penulis kerap bertemu dengannya--his legendary coach--di hari Selasa untuk diskusi atau mendengarkan sharing dari Mr. Morrie ini tentang hidup dan kehidupan.

Kenapa juga saya tuliskan lagi beberapa quotes yang menarik buat saya di blog ini, tujuannya ya biar saya bisa baca lagi beberapa quotes yang menginspirasi saya (soalnya buku yang baru aja selesai saya baca itu bukan punya saya dan udah dikembalikan heheheheee.....) dan biar kalo anak-anak udah pada gede nanti, bisa ikutan baca juga dan hopefully bisa jadi bahan diskusi sama mereka.

Here goes several Quotes that I love :

·         Learn how to die, and you learn how to live

When you realize you are going to die, you see everything much differently #aboutDEATH

·         “Living means I can be responsive to the other person.

It means I can show my emotions and my feelings

Talk to them, feel with them..”

·         There’s no experience like having children

There’s no substitute for it

You cannot do it with a friend

You cannot do it with a lover

If you want the experience of having complete responsibility for another human being,

And learn how to love and bond in the deepest way,

Then you should have children #about FAMILY

·         This is part of what family is about, not just love…

But letting others know there’s someone who is watching out for them

Nothing else will give you that.

Not Money. Not Fame. #about FAMILY

·         There is no formula to relationship.

They have to be negotiated in loving ways,

with room for both parties,

what they want and what they need,

what they can do and what their life is like

·         Wherever I went in my life, I met people wanting to gobble up something new.

These people were so hungry for love that they were accepting substitute material things for love.

They were embracing material things and expecting a sort of hug back.

But it never works.

You can’t substitute material things for love

or for gentleness…

or for tenderness…

or for a sense of comradeship..

Money is not a substitute for tenderness…

Power is not a substitute for tenderness.. #aboutMONEY

·         If you are trying to show off for people at the top, FORGET IT

They will look down at you anyhow..

And if you’re trying to show off for people at the bottom, FORGET IT

They will only envy you..

Status will get you NOWHERE

Only an OPEN HEART will allow you to float equally between everyone #aboutMONEY

·         Do the kinds of things that come from the heart

When you do, you won’t be dissatisfied

You won’t be envious

You won’t be longing for somebody else’s things..

On the contrary, you’ll be overwhelmed with what comes back #aboutMONEY

·         “I believe in being fully present.

That means you should be with the person you’re with

When I’m talking to you, I try to keep focused only on what is going between us

I’m not thinking about last week, what’s coming up, or anything else

I am talking to you. I am thinking of you.” #HowLoveGoesOn

·         “…Part of the problem is that everyone is in such a hurry

People haven’t found meaning in their lives

So they’re running all the time looking for it

They think the next car, the next house, the next job

Then they find those things are empty, too..

And they keep running…” #HowLoveGoesOn

·         “….I’ve learned this much about marriage

You get tested.

You find out who you are

Who the other person is

And how you accommodate or don’t..”  #aboutMARRIAGE

·         There are few rules I know to be true about love & marriage :

If you don’t RESPECT the other person, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble

If you don’t know how to COMPROMISE, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble

If you can’t TALK OPENLY about what goes on between you, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble

If you don’t have a COMMON SET OF VALUES in life, you’re gonna have a lot of trouble

Your values must be alike and the biggest one of these values is BELIEF IN THE IMPORTANCE OF YOUR MARRIAGE  #aboutMARRIAGE

·         “…It is sad, because a loved one is so important

You realize that, especially when you’re not doing so well

Friends are great, but they’re not going to be here on a night,

When you’re coughing and can’t sleep.

And someone has to sit up all night with you, comfort you, try to be helpful..” #aboutMARRIAGE

·         Every society has its own problem.

The way to do it, I think, isn’t to run away

You have to work at creating your own culture  #OurCulture

·         Here what I meant by building your own little subculture

I don’t mean you disregard every rule of your community

The little things, I can obey

But the Big Things—how we think, what we value

Those you must choose yourself

You can’t let anyone—or any society—determine for you

It’s the same for women not being thin enough,

Or men not being rich enough

It’s just our culture would have you believe

Don’t believe it  #OurCulture

·         No matter where you live, the biggest defect we, human beings, have is SHOTSIGHTEDNESS

We don’t see what we could be

We should be looking at our potential

Stretching ourselves into everything we can become  #OurCulture

·         People are only mean when they’re threatened

And when you get threatened, you start looking out only for yourself 

You start making money a God  #OurCulture